2nd wife?

Selalu dengar 2nd wife through drama tv and kawan2 ofis yang gatal2 sembang kosong nak kawin dua (but i know diorg main2 je dpn wife takutt). Its not me touchwood*. But my dearly friend of mine. Im not that close but being the only lady of leisure hehe in my department i make quite a lot of female friends with other department too. Meetings and trainings attended at HQ and some were quite distance to travel (who cares boley claim) yeah i often took the oppurtunity to say 'hi' and update with all the news @ gossips in the company.
Last week was one of my happy day. I went to HQ and collect my RM1000 shopping voucher weeehooo. Then i plan for my lunch with my freind 'J'.
She was glow and put on weight a bit. She was pregnant!. I dont even know when she married? gosh am i bad friend? but i cant remember get any wedding invitation from her too.. then being a responsible friend (ceyy yeah im that concern with my close ones, rugi those tak kenal i ok ;) i aksed her. Me : J u nampak glow and hmm
J : Yeah J pregnant
Me : serius? biler kawin (ok ni mmg lajujer kuar tak fikir2 sensitif ke tak soklan huish)
J : Last year
Me : OMG erin tak tahupun
J : a ah tak kecoh2 pun

This morning borak2 ngan kwn ofis baru tahu she's 2nd wife and her husband keje dlm company sama. I just cant believe it. I mean when and how its all started? But dah mmg jodoh, she's a nice girl mmg baik and tak byk cakap not the kecoh type of gal. Happy for her and her husband tak penah ade anak with the 1st. Am happy for both of them. Its not that typical scene perempuan sexy2 and husband dah ade anak ramai dkt rumah but still gatal dgn perempuan lain owh slut ok (amarah yerr)

Ikut pada pemahaman saya being a 2nd wife :
1. Byk bersabar
2. 1st wife confirm anti sampai god-knows-when
3. Pretend to be happy eventho husband tak selalu ade how to plan for holiday? Raya mcmane?1 week nak balik rumah soo impossible
4. Susah nak ada facebook sbb nnti ade kwn2 ofis nak add

Last but not least doakan semoga J bahagia hingga ke akhir hayat..amin